Many women don’t enjoy giving birth and the statistics show that over 50% of women have a negative or very negative experience.
Some are left angry that the experience was not as they expected, unheard, no voice, feel disempowered maybe dignity lost due to that process or the involvement of others.
Many women are left scarred in some way, more than physically.
Often a Caesarian procedure can leave a woman feeling bereft and cheated and this can colour the feelings she has towards her life moving forward.
Every woman is different and every feeling is absolutely true for her.
Having A Baby
Having that little baby under your care while you are feeling traumatised makes your own physical recovery tough. Coming to grips with the new identity of being a mother, combined with the usual stress of the 21st Century and maybe a partner who is experiencing his/her own struggles makes for an incredibly tough start to the changed family dynamic.
She was clearly distressed by the events that happened during the birth of her lovely daughter and had felt that she was supposed to just get on with her life, however telling me about what had happened during the birth had clearly left her stuck in a 'loop' of memory and emotion - a clear traumatic response.
In our session I taught her the breathing technique to allow her body and mind to settle (without going into too much relaxation) and then we used a process to find how maybe a previous life experience had left her with the same bodily feeling which showed up now, as she remembered the birthing experience. This actually brought her back to a time when she was very small. And, she was surprised to realise that she could access the memory. By 'rewinding' that experience and the working on the labour and child birth experience she felt free.
No longer did she feel fearful - she had only realised that she was fearful after the session. She said that she felt 'home' again - both in her body and in her neighbourhood. She felt more playful, and used the breathing technique to enhance her day to day life. Which of course, helped her daughter as well.
After time, the trauma of that experience shows up in other ways, during your life.
The mental and emotional impact of that time does not need to follow you around like a shadow for the rest of your life, where you avoid triggers like doors to hospitals, white coats or even further intimacy or pregnancies.
Coaching through this experience can make all the difference to your life going forward.